The Truth Is Rarely In The Appearance.

The behaviour of your co-worker, spouse, friend or that person who was rude to you out of nowhere is rarely overreacting due to the specific event you are in at that moment. 

As people are not their behaviour.

Behaviour is a conditioned and automatic response in most cases.

People on both sides of the event are trained to behave a certain way in certain situations. 

For example. 

A woman came in angry and upset because she couldn't find a park.

She yelled a bit; got agitated.

Made customers feel very uncomfortable and awkward.

They all silently had their judgemental eyes on her.

She left and people were happy she did.

No one asked her if she was ok.

It was assumed she was just a bitch, high maintenance or intolerant. 

A week later it was found out her father had just died. 

In the moments you are faced with someone with unreasonable reactions to certain moments realize that it most likely is not you or whatever the problem is about. 

When people suffer - anger, hurt, guilt, sadness, and fear are the primal triggers that are inflamed. 

They are hardwired responses and it takes enormous inner strength to override it. 

Next time you find yourself witnessing this programming mentally step out of the event and ask this person if they are ok? 

Ignite your compassion because you never, ever truly know the level of bullshit, injustice, or abuse that person has encountered and they might just be surviving the darkness.

Be the person to bring the light in. 

Vaughan.