How To Fail At Relationships.

"I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success." John Paul Getty.

Watch the movie All The Money In The World and you will see a very ugly side of one of the world's richest men, John Paul Getty. [No spoilers]

J.P Getty was rich in the bank account but broke in the home.

The tale of woe shows a man so dedicated to the acquirement of money above the curation of rich relationships, a family that loves him, a healthy body, and ultimately overshadowed by his poor, unkind, unwavering spirit.

The obsession with maintaining his wealth in the quote from the movie:

Fletcher Chase: Mr. Getty, with all due respect, nobody has ever been richer than you are at this moment.
John Paul Getty III: I have no money to spare.
Fletcher Chase: What would it take? I mean, what would it take for you to feel secure?
John Paul Getty III: More.

There it is...more. The obsession. 

I would say more a possession of his soul to which he allowed his sub-personalities to run a muck and dominate his very need to control and dominate the hierarchy. 

This frequently happens with power; it can lead to corruption which then erodes the beauty of the person's life who is help capture by the corrupted power.

Leaving a trail of resentment and bitterness that must be unconsciously enforced into other people's lives.

Money isn't to blame here; it is not the root of all evil. Even if you explore the idea that he had a lot of money and was very broken so therefore his accruing of money is what made him exhibit bad behavior.

Money is just the surface level problem. The drivers and attitudes are at fault.

When you place a priority on a thing you immediately and by default say no to every other possible thing. If you hold that priority in place over an extended period of time you neglect and even negate the other things. 

Do it long enough and everything decays.

Your relationships dry up.

Your health withers into disease.

Your friends stop calling.

The world in effect seems to turn against you.

This is why very successful people can often be extremely sour, angry, bitter, hurtful and overbearing. It's a reflection of years of single-minded choices and the consequences bearing fruit.

"I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success."

Let this sentence from one of the richest men in history foreshadow a warning for your life. 

A high-intimacy relationship is a key to dealing with the burden of life and work and ultimately handle the suffering from agony which falls upon us all at various intervals.

No amount of money will ever replace the emotional resolve high-quality relationships will bring. 

Relationships are not free; they are priceless.

Vaughan.